DELIBERATE WAYS TO RAISE YOUR ENERGY

I'll share the easiest tool first!  

I don't know that I'd be alive without therapeutic-grade essential oils and high quality supplements.  Essential oils are the blood of the plant.  If grown and distilled properly, they are a very good match to human blood.  This means they can act efficiently in our bodies. I use oils and supplements to support every system of my body.  When healing from narc abuse, you need ALL THE HELP you can get to bring your body, mind and spirit balance.  Narc victims are deliberately thrown out of balance. Sniff oils and take your supplements daily!

Psssst....a little fun tidbit....shown in the photo above is a diffuser.  When you diffuse oils into the air of your immediate environment, everyone in that room benefits...because everyone is breathing!

Spoiler alert, your narc will most likely complain about your use of oils...because they are such a low vibe person and the oils are a high vibe...it will create dissonance within them. Use them anyway. Put them on your own body. Go to my Facebook page that teaches about the benies essential oils. You can't buy oils there, but you can learn about how they will benefit your wellness goals in all areas of your life.  

I also have a general wellness page on Facebook.  This is listed as a tool here because finding solutions and creating tools is a tool for me. I want you to see what I do with my pain or what solutions have worked for me. 

Daily self care that affect every part of your body is where you'll make a big impact on becoming a thriver.  

Exercise: I live in an area of the country in which the weather changes a lot. I have to be prepared for that when considering my exercise protocol. I map out my exercise habit for the week every week and have a back-up plan in case the weather affects my plan. My go-to is riding my bike. If the weather prohibits that, here are some other ideas I rely on: Exercise raises your energy and affects every system of the body. 

1. Mall walking while listening to inspirational videos on Youtube. I do this early morning before they open or late evening. 

2. Go to the gym. I get bored here, so I have a list of things I MUST do before I leave. 

Reiki is a healing art that affects every system of the body and anyone can do it. Attend what's called a Reiki Share in your community. You may be encouraged to leave a love-offering (donation) for attending. $5-10 is typical. Reiki will return you to your center and cause peace.  Pretty cool side-effect. 

Meditation is without a doubt a non-negotiable. For beginners I recommend listening to a guided meditation on self-love. I still listen to such a meditation at least once per week. Put these three things in your daily calendar and make them part of your life. 

You can survive without self-care, but you will not thrive without it. 

You cannot correct a problem with the same mind that created it. Digging your way out of PTSD or CPTSD, or creating a new life requires a mind outside of your own.  A therapist and coach can help you see where you are, see how you got there, help you determine where you want to go, and a plan to get there.  A therapist can help you see the psychological issues that may be tripping you up or keeping you stuck. 

Loseyournarc.com has a relationship with a group of online counsellors to help those of you who cannot drive to an appointment or are under a microscope in such a way that you can't go to an appointment.  

If you want to learn more about this tool, please go to  https://betterhelp.com/loseyournarc

They oftentimes offer our peeps a discount by clicking on this link and following the prompts. 

If you have insurance and you do have the freedom to go to a therapist you'll want to be sure they are very well versed in the subject of narcissistic abuse. Here is an article with really good questions to ask a prospective therapist.  You are hiring someone to help you correct a very serious matter.  You are interviewing them.  Don't forget that.  This is the time in your life that you are going to start being much more deliberate.  This requires asking questions.  

Support groups are the bombdotcom for moving forward.  Built in accountability, validation, edification, and a message that says "You are responding perfectly normal to the shit-show that has been thrust upon you.!" 

My current go-tos....

• CoDA.org
• Facebook support groups for narc abuse or CPTSD

These types of meetings or participation should be scheduled as part of your regular day. Not optional. Put them in your calendar, even the Facebook support group participation.  Even if it is 11 am and 6 pm you just check in with new friends on that page to say hi or to see a new healthy coping skill...do it!  You deserve this time for yourself and your sanity.  You are not going to get sane alone. Part of a narc's tactics is to isolate you.  Make a new habit for yourself, the habit of not isolating! 

Be on the lookout for the Lose Your Narc Meetup Group that is on its way.